The Disempowerment of Fathers

Isn't it weird that I live in a society that criticises Islam for being stuck in the dark ages, sexist and male dominated and yet our law, which was founded on Christian principles, favours mothers over fathers in terms of full custody. Fathers often have to prove the mother unfit, to have their children live with them. While she often stays in the family home and the father is renting somewhere and has to face endless checks by agencies to deem whether his place is fit for his own kids to come visit and stay over. If society is proper equal, that's what feminism has been crying out for a long time now, why not the mother move out and the father stay in the family home?

I find it hard to take seriously the well worn criticisms of Islam, when the balance of those western judicial scales is enormously weighted against fathers. Expecting them to pay for their children (and rightly so) but are treated like dogs in the court system only thrown scraps of time in comparison to the mothers who often don't even stick to their court agreements, making it so difficult for the father to attend his visits or even saying the child is sick several times in a row when they're clearly not. This should be an offence when mothers do this! They should be chased by the authorities in the same way the dads are chased financially.

What do you think that does to the image of their father in the child's eyes?

In Islam the father is treated with utmost respect. No one is taking his kids away from him and Islamic law doesn't uphold the mother's rights against the father unless the father is abusive.

It is a common thing in our modern, empowered society, for me to hear women who use their children like a weapon against the father of those children because of some issues she has with her ex. How is any of that mess the childrens fault? Yet they suffer because of a out of control woman who needs someone to put her in her place! Where is the empowerment for the man uh?

And people say the Islamic way is messed up. Looking at the way the 'christian' system of family law works, I don't think so.